SELF-TEST: Your Emotional BS Quotient
Emotional BS is a psychological stealth disease involving three common dynamics: denial, delusion and blame.Together, they form a Toxic Trio that distorts reality, destroys trust — and ruins relationships.
Taking a few minutes to answer the following ten questions will give you a quick, but accurate, idea of how much Emotional BS has crept into your life. This knowledge can save your relationship, your career, and even your life!
Answer each question YES, SOMETIMES or NO.
Denial
1) I have a significant issue in my life ( weight gain, alcohol or medication use, sexual behavior, over-spending) that I consistently ignore, hoping it will go away on its own.
2) I will push ahead with a plan, idea or behavior, ignoring advice from others that I'm on the wrong course, or dismissing obvious signs of trouble.
3) I have a part of my life I keep secret, a destructive behavior (such as a secret spending, gambling or sexual addiction) that if my spouse or friends learned about would be embarrassing — or worse.
4) I say yes to things I don't really want to — or know if I can — actually do, denying my need to realistically set limits to take care of myself.
Delusion
5) I change my story — and create a delusional reality — about something I did or did not do in order to make myself look better.
|
|
|
|
|
SELF-TEST: Your Emotional BS Quotient
6) I find myself imagining unusual or magical solutions to my personal problems that would immediately change my life for the better (an unearned financial windfall such as winning the lottery, my spouse or partner finally 'changing, sudden personal or spiritual victories).
7) I keep repeating certain behaviors in my life or relationships (such as getting into debt, or becoming involved with the same kind of unhyealthy person over and over).
Blame
8) I quickly find someone else to blame whenever I'm accused of doing something wrong, refusing to budge about being 'right.'
9) Being seen as doing anything imperfectly fills me with strong anxiety (so I do things over and over to make sure they're perfect, obsess about omeone blaming me for a mistake, and regularly comppare my performance to that of others).
10) When something doesn't go right for me, I blame myself, feel depressed and that there's something deeply wrong with me.
SCORING: • Each YES: 10 Points • Each SOMETIMES: 5 Points • Each NO: 0 Points
15+ Points: You need to be more aware of how denial, delusion and blame are creating Emotional BS in your life.
30+ Points: You are in serious danger of losing control of your life and goals.
40+Points: Your life and relationships are currently in serious danger.
|
|
